Around 1998, I split from my
ex-partner Debbie Finney (formally Goulden).. Because of an
argument which was pointless and it seemed at the time
to me that her intensions were to not have me there any
longer so on Fathers day 1998, I left Debbie and the kids, I
just could not take anymore verbal abuse from her and her
family and friends at the time which was becoming quite
common.
I did attempt seeing the girls on many
occasions but only to be rejected by Debbie, or I felt
un-eased at there house. Still in 1998 Debbie allowed
me to see the girls for a while but at the time problem were
occurring in my life such as I was made redundant from my
previous employer of 9 years and was homeless and not having
a fix address made it even harder until 2000, when I settled
back near my mothers, I then decided to re-connect with
Debbie through the courts as Debbie did threaten with saying
that I would never see the kids, anyway in 2002 after a lot
of messing around with the courts, I managed to win the case
and obtained a parental responsibility order which I kept to
the agreement with seeing the girls on a regular basis going
to certain areas like Sandbach, Macclesfield and finally
Stoke were they currently are living meeting in places so
that I could take them out. Debbie said I needed
another person with me to help with the girls so my sister
helped me at the time until her eldest son was involved in a
fire and was badly burnt so obviously this caused a lot
problems for me seeing the girls as well, I did explain this
to Debbie and she was very understanding about it which I
was grateful for however after further few visits it was
becoming harder for me to see the girls as I could not get
someone to come with me or me to get any form of transport
and also I was working for an employer which also made it
harder as the job was in retail so I had to work around
certain dates as the employer would not let me keep to my
agreement on certain days when I should be seeing the girls
which I explained to Debbie the best I could which was
making me stressed towards the employer at the time.
Around 2002/3, Debbie changed her
phone number and therefore made it lot harder for me to see
the girls, so after a while of thinking I decided to design
this page on my website and rank it in the keywords of
Google, Yahoo, MSN ... so on.
Hoping that they would contact me and
see that I have not forgot them.. or never will.
Sarah and Sammy are always on my mind
they are apart of my life and my families which needs to be
put back in place as they are important to us, they are
missed more than they think. I do miss them more
than anything in the world, I hope Debbie sees this and
realises that I cannot apologise enough to them over the
years not being in there life the way I would have loved
to.. I don't want to be blamed or accused saying that
I have "blown it" as this is not fair to me as my intensions
were always good just more difficult regarding seeing them
as much as I would have loved too.
On an additional note they now have 5
cousins they have never met.
Heather (my sister in middle)
with Evan and Hannah (Sharon's kids)
Sarah Goulden and Sammy Goulden are children to Nick Yates and
ex-partner Debbie Finney (formally Goulden) sarah was born 25th December
1995 and Sammy 17 November 1996 we lived in Macclesfield for a period of
four years together at 34 Berwick close Macclesfield, Debbie's husband
is Stephen Finney, Debbie has 3 brothers Brain Peover, Kieran Bate and
Vernon Bates who Vernon and Kieran live with there father Patrick Bates
on Eaglis Way, Macclesfield, Me and Debbie separate due to a silly
dispute over some bedding on Fathers Day 1998 at the time I was working
as a single colour printer in a textile company in Sharston Manchester,
my mother and step father live on peel hall road, Manchester, my father
Roy lives in stoke on Trent in scholar green, I nick now live in peel
hall near my mothers on the estate I have been looking for my daughters
since 2002, the reason why I have not seen them for so many years is
that I have lost contact with Debbie so I am unaware of the proper
location, when I had access to see the kids Debbie was living in Stoke
and I used to go and see them on the agreement from the courts however
through various reasons main one being that my sister Sharon's eldest
son was involved in a fire and has now 38% degree burns, and also the
company I was working for were quite nasty with me as they would not let
me go and see my children as I was working in the retail area at the
time which stressed me out. eventually I left there and have been trying to
search for them ever since to regain access or try via
